Why grinding is not dancing

Cord Staff April 3, 4 mins read. Facebook Twitter. Maybe you are interested. Think twice before you decide to be a geisha for Halloween By Crystal Xue 4 mins read. Show all responses. Leave a Reply Cancel reply You must be logged in to post a comment. Loading Comments The objectification of girls and the overly sexualized nature of grinding is inherently repulsive.

Though if grinding is your way of relieving stress and having fun, continue to do so. On the other hand, the school administration is up against a dominant trend in modern culture. Grinding may also seem moderate in comparison to the lyrics in modern rap music.

Any form of sexual mystery, intimacy and privacy is rare, especially between high school teens. Grinding is unequivocal rather than suggestive. I just stared at him. I asked him to repeat himself, though I had heard him over the music the first time. In my confusion about this unexpected approach and sudden awkwardness when face-to-face with someone who wanted to dance with me, I said no and scurried to the bathroom. What was the big deal anyway? And why was I cowering on the toilet?

It was scary. I felt safe in the ambiguity of dance-floor grinding, in the gray space where nothing is risked and nothing is lost. You can neither injure nor be injured. Everything is chill when one party loses interest because the interest was never actually established.

Grinding is just another method of opaque communication that saves the involved parties from possible embarrassment and wraps them in a protective layer of anonymity; a dance that looks so intimate but lacks any sense of intimacy at all.

I never thought something I experienced on a Spanish classroom dance floor would matter six years later. I once worried about being caught by chaperones. Now I worry about being trapped by gender roles. Photographer Kevin Cook All of the photos included in this feature are a part of a larger body of work shot by Kevin Cook. During his senior year at Temple, he took advice from his mentors to photograph the world around him.

He befriended a sophomore who brought him along to parties, where he by revisited his college weekends and captured the moments and emotions inside.

Although the pictures seen here were taken at Temple, Cook started up his project again at MU. He continues to convey the complex intersection of sexuality, alcohol and grinding that Elise Schmelzer addresses in this story. Cook earned gold and silver awards in the College Photographer of the Year Competition. Last March, he was named one of the top 40 photojournalists under the age of 25 by Boston. Edit Close. Toggle navigation. Don't have an account? Sign Up Today. Advertise Contact Us. Find your holiday spirit at these mid-Missouri events.

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Serious question. I always hear guys say that they feel like they have to get their grind on with a girl or else they don't have anything to do on the dance floor, which is stupid because:. A For a guy, grinding is just the laziest thing ever.

Have you ever seen it go down? It's so much more fun to just wave your hands around or do the shopping cart or running man or whatever. If you're worried about looking "stupid," look to your left at the white guy in a sweater vest and girl in the Forever21 bodycon dress that are swaying back in forth in a way that disturbingly resembles a pair of mating insects. Do they look cool? No they do not. Guys that think that dancing automatically means, "Yes, I'll hook up with you. Those are two very different things, especially considering that the majority of guys don't even so much as ask to dance with you.

They just come swooping in from behind like a hawk honing in on a squirrel and just assume that you'll go with it, and then somewhere down the line assume that this means you'll go back to their room with them? Yeah, that's the part where it's time to "nope" it on out of there. I'm going to say this once, and let me be very clear. Some songs are simply NOT meant to be grinded to ground to?

Really, unless a song has one or more artists with a name that begins with "Lil," it is NOT going to be the ideal grinding song.

But does that stop some couples?